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YOU DESERVE
A MARRIAGE THAT
LASTS A LIFETIME.

Christ-centered relationship tips and tools that will help equip anyone to build a rock-solid, joyful marriage - no matter what season of life you find yourself in.

AND HERES A LITTLE SECRET

GREAT MARRIAGES DON'T JUST HAPPEN.

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ACCORDING TO STATISTICS, ONE IN EVERY TWO MARRIAGES ENDS IN DIVORCE.

That fact should rattle you. It's now just as normal for a marriage to end in a divorce as it is to last a lifetime. 

The crazy thing is - there's not a single person who stands up on their wedding day, expecting to become a part of this sobering statistic.

In the heartbreaking years of my own parents divorce, I set out to learn as much as I could about how to build my own future relationship the right way. How could I be sure this vow I'd make could last through a lifetime? 

 

Every answer I was looking for, I found through a personal relationship with the Lord. Because He’s the One who invented marriage, created us to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love.

If your relationship right now looks just like everyone else's, you're on the track to being "normal" and my hope is that you crave more than that.

FOR THE PAST DECADE, I’VE MADE IT MY MISSION TO DISRUPT THE STANDARD OF DIVORCE BY SHARING SIMPLE, PRACTICAL PIECES OF ADVICE THAT ALLOW OTHERS TO SEE THE LIGHT.

I have a passion for helping others intentionally build their life on a firm foundation. I want nothing more than for people to find hope, healing, and have happy, healthy marriages that glorify God - because it changed my life and my family tree. Allow me to introduce to you some of my very favorite resources on relationships. I hope they can be a blessing to you.

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HERES A BIT OF MY STORY AND WHY I DO WHAT I DO

IF YOU'RE WONDERING

WHERE SHOULD I BEGIN?

Here are the top resources I recommend to anybody (in any stage of life) to start with to gain insight and wisdom on love before you deep dive into preparing for a relationship. 

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The 5 Love Languages

An absolute classic. Different people give and receive love in different ways. By learning the languages, you can love others well, better identify the root cause in conflicts, and learn how you desire to be loved.

Love & Respect

Crack the communication code and discover one of the greatest secrets to a successful relationship! This book will help you stop the crazy cycle of conflict and develop communication skills necessary for marriage

Why Do I Do What I Don't Want To Do? 

Overcome the Cycle of Self-Destructive Bad Habits. Claim a life of virtue and become the person you were meant to be all along. This is a book I think every Christian should read. Its so good, I've read it twice...this year alone.

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A sermon series from The Porch

Asking for a Friend

Tackling the questions nobody wants to be the one to ask... Questions like, "Is it okay to doubt God?" "If God is good, why doesn't everyone go to heaven?" "Is masturbation a sin?" "Can you be gay and be a Christian?" "Is it okay to live with my boyfriend?" and more! 

This is a 9 part series I've shared over and over again and has helped hundreds of thousands of people better understand what the Bible has to say regarding some of the most taboo topics.

Read the entire Bible in a year

Chronological Bible In a Year Plan

Join me and 65+ others who have decided to dedicate 15-20 minutes a day to strengthening our personal relationship with God. We're reading the entire Bible - and the best part is - there's a whole community of other people (from all walks of life) doing the same thing. There's space daily to ask questions, share thoughts, and encourage one another. It's never too late to hop in! Just pickup where we're at. 

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Quick jump to the tools geared towards specific seasons of life.

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MARIAH AND LEVI

FOR YOUR SEASON OF 

You've stalked my website and instagram, and inquired with me through my contact page. Now I'll finally get to know YOU and your Fiancé better! I will also give you all the details about my business and answer any questions you have.   

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The Love Everybody Wants

Do you wonder if you'll ever find "The One"? This book busts the shallow myths the world tells us about love and points to the love that lasts forever, the love that changes everything. So you never accidentally settle for less than God's best.

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Welcome to Adulting

"Adulting" is hard, but this super relatable read will help you navigate through the toughest things young adults face today. Gain the wisdom you didn't even know you needed and succeed in every area of your life. 

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Atomic Habits

If you have a goal in any area of your life, this book will give your practical tools you need to achieve it. If you love to grow and improve, this book is a must.

A sermon series by Michael Todd at Transformation Church

This is my #1 most recommended relationship resource I've shared with others throughout the years.

The Relationship Goals sermon series was my introduction to learning about a different way of dating. The new knowledge I gained really added up, made a lot of sense, and was really impactful for me as I decided what I wanted my future relationship to look like. My husband and I went through this 8 part series together at the very beginning of our relationship, but I wish I would have found this before we began dating! The first two episodes, specifically, revealed so much of the value that lies in the season of singleness. Like my mind was blown.

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A bible-backed podcast for young adults with real questions

This podcast is a haven for young adults seeking purposeful direction. The real-life questions tackled are incredibly relatable, and the hosts are real, honest, entertaining, and hilarious. Together they tackle the real life questions people submit to them and provide Godly answers with great wisdom!

 

Listen in as Jonathan Pokluda, Nate Hilgenkamp, and Kathy Davidson help you navigate life in your 20’s and 30’s! 

SINGLENESS

Becoming Something Podcast

FOR YOUR SEASON OF 

Dating & Engagement

Save yourself the pain and heartbreak of dating the world's way. Dispel the myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales you've believed about dating and replace them with the truth from the One who invented marriage, created you to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love.

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Outdated

A must read! This favorite book of mine explains God's purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and covers why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date.

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Love That Lasts

Learning about love from social media will leave you entering into a relationship feeling duped. This book exposes the distorted views of love that permeate our culture and damage our hearts, minds, and souls...like the the belief that every person has only one soul mate. 

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Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Not only does this have tons of wisdom and stories, but it also includes insightful “Talking it Over” questions to help couples have a healthy dating relationship where they can engage in the heart-felt discussions they didn't even know needed to be having before marriage. 

A sermon series by Pastor Michael Todd at Transformation Church

The Relationship Goals sermon series was my introduction to learning about a different way of dating. The new knowledge I gained really added up, made a lot of sense, and was really impactful as I decided what I wanted my future relationship to look like. My husband and I went through this 8 part series together at the very beginning of our relationship. It helped spark many great conversations about boundaries, intentions, and expectations going into our dating relationship. 

Today, its still my #1 recommended resource to begin with.

A Sermon Series by The Porch

Fantasy Love

We all desire real love, but in a world full of unrealistic expectations, social media highlight reels, online dating profiles, and “reality” TV shows, it can be hard to know what real love is. In this 4 part series, you'll look to God’s Word and biblical principles to discover what real love is, what exactly you should be looking for, and how you can find it.

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First Comes Love

Dating can be complicated and things aren’t always as they seem. As it relates to dating, you can't trust your feelings... Listen and learn from God‘s word what it looks like to prepare well for the love life you’ve always wanted.

In this 8 part series, you'll get to watch what it looks like to date from the "ask out" to "the altar" in a way that honors God and is consistent with scripture.

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Money Fights are the #1 reason for divorce. 

Financial Peace University

If I could give every couple one thing as they start their marriage off, its this.

A nine-week class built on biblical principles and a proven system to help real people in the real world win with money and never have to worry about money again. Simplify your money. Get debt-free. Become a millionaire. Live in peace and change your family tree. 

This is something you can't afford not to do. 

* I recommend upgrading to Ramsey+ which includes FPU and many other money tools that we personally use on the daily.

Relationship Goals

FOR YOUR LIFETIME OF 

MARRIAGE

People enter marriage with expectations of it being blissful, romantic, and fulfilling only to discover they’ve been duped. After learning about love and sexuality from social media, friends, fairy tales, pornography, etc. we have no idea what healthy, lifelong love is supposed to be like. The results are often disastrous, with this generation becoming one of the most relationally sick, sexually addicted, and divorce ridden in history. Did I marry the wrong person? marriages show the gospel in living form- the more marriages he destroys, the better, so no one will see loved lived out by man and wife showing the image of God.

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Vertical Marriage

A page turning narrative of one couple’s journey from "I've lost feelings for you" to the type of marriage we're all looking for. This relatable book will give you insight, application, and inspiration to reconnect with God together and to transform your marriage to everything you hoped it would be. A book I've personally gifted to a countless amount of newlyweds.

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Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away

Marriage has the same potential to be miserable as it does to be blissful. This book can help you to better understand your spouse, take responsibility for what you can control, and bust the myths we often feed ourselves in conflict. Its a great read even BEFORE you feel like walking away.

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Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle

If you feel like your marriage is under attack, this book looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our struggles can have deeper spiritual realities. Learn straight-forward, practical steps for guarding your marriage with the whole armor of God.

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A weekend get-away with a goal.

Weekend to Remember

No marriage is static. Each day, each choice — you’re either moving closer together, toward oneness … or coasting farther apart.

This is the perfect blend of a faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat vacation. Weekend to Remember helps couples intentionally grow closer together. Whether you’re sending up an SOS for marital rescue or looking to foster an already flourishing connection, Weekend to Remember is your best next step toward being, and staying, one! 

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A three-time award winning weekday podcast and nationally syndicated radio broadcast, featuring Dave and Ann Wilson.

FamilyLife Today® Podcast

In each episode, Dave and Ann interview different guests covering engaging and relevant topics that help families grow together with Jesus while pursuing the relationships that matter most.

One of my favorite couples to learn from, they share so much wisdom on a wide variety of topics. Everything from Waiting, Worry, Anger, Anxiety, Addiction, Divorce, Drifting Apart, Step/Blended Families, Burnout and more! Their wisdom and stories are so comforting and valuable to listen in on, especially while we're driving!

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A podcast covering financial questions with biblical answers
by Rob West

Faith&Finance

Learn what the Bible says about managing money and how it applies to your life. God is the owner, we are simply managers of what He’s entrusted to us. Gain practical knowledge on how to make wise financial decisions and be intentional in how you use your resources.

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Money Fights are the #1 reason for divorce. 

Financial Peace University

If I could give every couple one thing as they start their marriage off, its this.

A nine-week class built on biblical principles and a proven system to help real people in the real world win with money and never have to worry about money again. Simplify your money. Get debt-free. Become a millionaire. Live in peace and change your family tree. 

This is something you can't afford not to do. 

* I recommend upgrading to Ramsey+ which includes FPU and many other money tools that we personally use on the daily.

THE WEEKLY Q&A
WITH KENZIE

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ANSWERING YOUR ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS ONLINE WITH BIBLICALLY-LED, LIFE ADVICE.

Because you deserve answers to the questions you don't quite have to courage to ask. 

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YOU'VE GOT A FRIEND IN ME

SOMEONE TO TELL YOU EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED TO HEAR SO YOU CAN FIND CLARITY AND FEEL CONFIDENT YOU'RE CHOOSING GODS BEST FOR YOUR LIFE.

When I began my journey to learning about relationships and how I could cultivate a beautiful marriage, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what kind of marriage I wanted to have, but I had no clue the steps I should be taking in my current season of life to get there. 

I yearned for a community where I could learn from others, ask the deep questions, and get wise advice on the next steps I should take to move my life in the direction God was leading me without waisting my time on things that weren't going to really matter.

Looking back, it was the Godly-women who invested their time and shared their wisdom with me that made all the difference. They gave me the best advice, helped me find clarity in decision making, and gave me accountability where I needed it the most. 

I believe that doing life together will always produce faster results, better accountability, and more encouragement in the areas God has called us to. I have such a passion for helping others and cheering them on in their personal growth. If this resonates with you, allow me to encourage you. If you're ready to grow in ways you didn't even know you needed - let's do it over a cup of coffee! 

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